After the custom wedding bands are exchanged, the photos are taken, and the reception party is over, the marriage between two partners actually begins. Then the happy couple will enjoy a grand honeymoon that normally extends beyond just the 7-to-10 days in a tropical paradise. After all the glitz and glitter has long since faded into memory, is when the quality of their marriage will be defined.
Some of the smartest marriage advice ever offered has nothing to do with ceremonies or honeymoons. It is in no way related to colour coordination, flowers, and wedding themes. The smartest advice addresses couples where they need it most: at home and alone where no one else is watching.
Here are the smartest marriage tips we can offer couples visiting The Engage Diamond Studio in Toronto:
1. Know That Your Spouse Is Not Perfect
Love does something amazing to people. It causes us to view our partners as being able to do no wrong; it causes us to view that special him or her as being perfect. But don’t hold on to that view – your spouse is not perfect. Allowing your spouse, the freedom to be whoever he or she is eliminates much of the stress that comes with trying to be what we are not.
2. Know That You Cannot Change Your Spouse
You did not marry your partner because it was a good opportunity to change him or her. That’s good, because you cannot change your spouse anyway. That man or woman you married is the only one who holds the power to change. If the two of you work on individually changing yourselves where need be, you will both be just fine.
3. Men Listen, Women Let Him Go
Communication between men and women is very different. Men, sometimes women just need someone to listen to them. They do not need you to come up with a solution or fix the problem. Women, men sometimes need to be left alone. They don’t need to talk things through like you do. When couples can learn how their communication styles differ, things go much more smoothly.
4. Invest Time in Your Marriage
Married couples need both quality AND quantity when it comes to time invested in the relationship. You need more than just 15 minutes at the end of the day around takeout before you separate again for the evening’s activities. So learn to set aside those other things so that you can invest in one another. Establish a weekly date night, if it helps.
5. Discover It Is Okay to Disagree
Married couples are not going to agree on everything. In fact, those who do are an anomaly. It is okay to disagree over both minor and major things. It is also possible to disagree without constant fighting. When you simply accept that you and your partner are different people with different views, you can also learn that it’s okay to disagree.
6. Talk about Life
Far too many married couples focus all of their conversations on their relationship and the daily routine of their intertwined lives. This sort of conversation is not bad, but it is also not very creative or deep. So take the time to talk about life. Talk about things that are outside the realm of your marriage. Have discussions with your partner as you would your friends. It will make a difference.
Marriage is a great thing. When couples can make it work, it goes beyond beautiful ceremonies to be a life-changing experience.