When a close family member or friend asks you to be their Maid of Honor, well, it truly is an honor! I had the chance twice so I wanted to share a few tips I learned. I’ll be focusing on the actual wedding day although this role starts as soon as you accept!
Basically, it’s your duty to keep the bride as stress-free as possible on her day. If that means spiritually warding off the evil eye (can you tell I’m Armenian?), keeping her on-schedule or even cleaning up after the poor little flower girl who came down with a nasty stomach flu (yes, that did happen), then it’s your job to do so. That’s not to say you should be uptight, you’re supposed to keep the mood light and fun.
Here are a few things to keep in mind on the day of:
- It’s an early wake up call with hair and makeup so try to shoo away any overzealous bridesmaids keeping the bride up too late the night before. That person might even be you, so check yourself before you wreck yourself and her beauty sleep!
- If the bride is running a few minutes late, it’s not the end of the world since the wedding won’t start without her anyway!
- Make sure to eat breakfast and make sure the bride gets something down even if she insists she’s too excited to eat. Nobody wants to watch her black out while walking down the aisle. There are a lot of emotions going on in that moment and having some oatmeal in her belly will keep her stomach grounded.
- The few minutes before the bride walks down the aisle are sacred. It’s possible she might cross paths with guests arriving at the last minute. You need to keep an eye out for the clingy ones. I’m not referring to a kiss, a congrats or exchanging a few words. However, guests who enter her personal space and linger too long should be politely directed toward the seating area since they’re also holding up the ceremony.
- Make sure the bride’s train and veil are nicely placed once she arrives at the altar since the photographers will be taking a ton of pictures during the ceremony.
- The bride will need her hands free during the ceremony and depending on the situation, so might you. Try to find a place to lay down the bouquets in advance or ask a couple of the bridesmaids for their help.
- If there’s wine involved in the ceremony, remember to take the glass slowly, I repeat, slowly!
- Usually the wedding party and bride/groom photos are taken after the ceremony. This ended up being one of my favorite parts of the whole day since you have a camera crew following you all over town, and let’s be real, who doesn’t like to pretend they’re a celeb for a couple of hours? It’s likely you and the wedding party will be hungry so either bring a few snacks and water bottles or make a pit stop somewhere because you won’t be eating for another few hours.
- You’re responsible for the bride’s belongings, so if she has a purse, flat shoes and a second dress, keep track of where they are for when she needs them.
- If the bride and groom incorporated any extra items into the ceremony, make sure the important items are located and keep in mind where they are or give them to the appropriate people.
- Depending on the bride’s attire, you might need to help her attach the bustle for the reception or help her into a second dress. Establish when and where this will be done before the day of the wedding.
- The bride and groom might give you a few envelopes filled with hundreds of dollars to tip the limo driver and Maitre-D at the venue which understandably they shouldn’t think about on their day, so make sure to keep track of your purse at all times!
Dance up a storm, enjoy the festivities and try to stay at least slightly sober in order to handle any last minute requests. Otherwise, have fun!